Saturday, July 17, 2010
Monday, July 5, 2010
CHOICES and CHANCES and CHANGE......
I have been pondering life, and how different it has actually been from what I ever dreamed it would be, in some ways. Funny how age can change your vantage point! I remember ALWAYS wanting a dozen children! I knew from very early on, I wanted to be A MOM! THAT dream and that part of my life, well, it has been a dream come true! Each child has brought to me more than I could ever have given in return. The life lessons learned from each child, well, it would take volumes! SO, my choice to have children, and being blessed to have so many has been a dream come true. I know in my heart that my husband was the one who was to allow me that great honor and privilege. FOR that, I will ALWAYS LOVE and APPRECIATE him. He has qualities that I want my children to emulate and his example in many areas will bless their lives eternally.
For example, he is very organized and neat. He is very talented artistically. He is very dedicated and determined and has been very successful because he is also willing to pay the price to succeed. He does not do anything without investing all he has into the venture. That is what first attracted me to him. Though he was raised Catholic, he joined the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, and he made it a priority to learn all he could about his new found faith. Rarely did I ever encounter an individual that had studied the gospel to the degree that I had. UNTIL I met GARY! He had gained a level of understanding in just the two short years as a member, that was equal to that of all my years of learning to date. Well, he did still have some things he had not learned, but, he was anxious and willing to fill in all the gaps and asked me questions constantly, which made me search to make sure I was not teaching him amiss! IT was one of the most endearing things, to spend time just studying the gospel with him. I do so miss that.
BUT, time has a way of changing everyone and everything. I often wonder if there was anything more I could have done to save my marriage. MY dream of being married forever was crushed and now, I must alter all the other life dreams that hinged upon that pivotal change. IT has been lonely, and oh so very difficult to raise these beautiful children alone. BUT, I do have a peace about the choices that I have made.
Funny, but, one of the reasons I do have a peace, is because I know that GOD has comforted me and I know that I will find joy again.
HOW does one pick themselves up from the ashes of unfulfilled dreams? IT is NOT easy. I will say that it has been possible for me, ONLY through the help of my Savior and my Heavenly Father. Their guidance and love have transcended all of the pain, sorrow, regrets, unfulfilled dreams----and have made enduring possible.
I remember a conversation once with a woman. She said she was NOT limited to reading the scriptures. I understood her to mean, that we have so many sources of inspiration and light! AND, we do. YET, I want my voice to be clear in defense of the SCRIPTURES as the ONE TRUE SOURCE of light! I thought about those generations that ONLY HAD the scriptures! THERE was little to no other reading material! AND, I say, THEY WERE THE ONES with the advantage! IT is THEIR CHARACTER AND THEIR MANNERS and CONDUCT which would save OUR nation, protect us from the ills of society today! THE scriptures are a CONDUIT of LIGHT! OF LIFE! WHEN utilized, studied and applied, there is NO END to the good that comes into lives that are so enlightened by HIS WORD! IT is because they were divinely written, and it is because the HOLY GHOST can use those words to inspire, testify and motivate us to greater good!
And, yet, even I spend far too little time between the pages of that LAMP UNTO MY FEET!
I find the greatest source of comfort, peace and direction when I am immersing myself in the scriptures. I find more joy, more charity in my own soul, when I daily sup from those pages. I KNOW that GOD lives and has mercifully provided for us, that form of communion with HIM via HIS word, through the scriptures. WHEN I want to draw nearer to HIM, I need only open HIS BOOK! ( or books! for truly there are many scriptures, the Bible and the Book of Mormon, the Doctrine and Covenants and the Pearl of Great Price, and the monthly ENSIGN that has GOD'S word to us through HIS divinely appointed PROPHET here upon the earth NOW! EVEN President Monson.) We are so very blessed to have such direction available to us. IT is there, we have only to open the book and peruse the pages with a pure heart and a prayer in our heart!
I know that there will be more that I will be called upon to endure. There have been so many trials already, but, since my life is not yet over, there will be more. As I age, I see how one choice, one action can set off a chain reaction that causes an entirely new path, a matrix if you will, is opened and the course of life is altered forever. Sometimes that is a very good thing indeed! Other times, the choice leads to such sorrow, it is difficult NOT to regret ever having opened up that path at all......I was watching a discussion about teenagers that abandoned their babies. SHOULD they be given immunity from prosecution, IF they take their baby to a safe haven, such as a hospital, could they then be absolved of any wrong associated with abandonment. WOULD that lead mothers to abandon their babies more often, or abandon them if there was something "wrong" with the baby and they just did NOT wish to deal with a disabled child. WOULD it encourage MORE mothers to abandon their babies? AS I thought of this complex issue, I realized that the choice to procreate without the benefits of a husband/father who would share the burden of parenting was one choice that I was so blessed to have NOT personally made. AND, I realized that this issue just had to be examined on a case by case basis. NO general litigation would be capable of managing such an issue.
This realization brought me face to face with the idea of the ULTIMATE judgment. I am SO very grateful that though many upon this earth feel they have the right to judge, ultimately, we all will face the PERFECT JUDGE! AND, how grateful I am that it is HE that will know the thoughts and intents of MY HEART as HE does pass judgment upon ALL my choices. I then reflected upon my own behavior. WAS I PASSING JUDGMENT, unrighteously, on ANYONE? I have once again, made a commitment to defer ALL judgment to HIM! I will just LOVE and accept all who cross my path and leave the impossible task of perfectly judging, to the ONE that can judge perfectly!
I still go crazy wondering why somethings have occurred in my life! I still WANT to know NOW all the WHY'S! BUT, I will temper that with my understanding that I can FIND answers now, by searching the scriptures. That is where I can find peace and direction. AND, for those things that are NOT given for me to know, here and now, I will exercise patience and WAIT UPON THE LORD! HE will, in time, reveal ALL things. THAT is what HE has promised.
With age, comes the wisdom to try and THINK every option through BEFORE acting! DO I always do so? NO! BUT, I find I am doing that more often! AND, with practice, I may in time, become perfect in making sure each action of mine, is in complete alignment with HIS will. THAT is MY GOAL! THEN, and ONLY then will I have the peace and the assurance that I will do NO HARM to another. WHAT WOULD THAT BE LIKE? TO KNOW, without a doubt, that every action I did take, would ONLY ever BLESS another! THAT is, to me, akin to becoming MORE LIKE HIM! And, that is my goal after all! TO be loving and giving and to bless ALL that are living! IN time, I pray that is what I do achieve. GOD bless us ALL to strive more to be MORE like HIM!
For example, he is very organized and neat. He is very talented artistically. He is very dedicated and determined and has been very successful because he is also willing to pay the price to succeed. He does not do anything without investing all he has into the venture. That is what first attracted me to him. Though he was raised Catholic, he joined the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, and he made it a priority to learn all he could about his new found faith. Rarely did I ever encounter an individual that had studied the gospel to the degree that I had. UNTIL I met GARY! He had gained a level of understanding in just the two short years as a member, that was equal to that of all my years of learning to date. Well, he did still have some things he had not learned, but, he was anxious and willing to fill in all the gaps and asked me questions constantly, which made me search to make sure I was not teaching him amiss! IT was one of the most endearing things, to spend time just studying the gospel with him. I do so miss that.
BUT, time has a way of changing everyone and everything. I often wonder if there was anything more I could have done to save my marriage. MY dream of being married forever was crushed and now, I must alter all the other life dreams that hinged upon that pivotal change. IT has been lonely, and oh so very difficult to raise these beautiful children alone. BUT, I do have a peace about the choices that I have made.
Funny, but, one of the reasons I do have a peace, is because I know that GOD has comforted me and I know that I will find joy again.
HOW does one pick themselves up from the ashes of unfulfilled dreams? IT is NOT easy. I will say that it has been possible for me, ONLY through the help of my Savior and my Heavenly Father. Their guidance and love have transcended all of the pain, sorrow, regrets, unfulfilled dreams----and have made enduring possible.
I remember a conversation once with a woman. She said she was NOT limited to reading the scriptures. I understood her to mean, that we have so many sources of inspiration and light! AND, we do. YET, I want my voice to be clear in defense of the SCRIPTURES as the ONE TRUE SOURCE of light! I thought about those generations that ONLY HAD the scriptures! THERE was little to no other reading material! AND, I say, THEY WERE THE ONES with the advantage! IT is THEIR CHARACTER AND THEIR MANNERS and CONDUCT which would save OUR nation, protect us from the ills of society today! THE scriptures are a CONDUIT of LIGHT! OF LIFE! WHEN utilized, studied and applied, there is NO END to the good that comes into lives that are so enlightened by HIS WORD! IT is because they were divinely written, and it is because the HOLY GHOST can use those words to inspire, testify and motivate us to greater good!
And, yet, even I spend far too little time between the pages of that LAMP UNTO MY FEET!
I find the greatest source of comfort, peace and direction when I am immersing myself in the scriptures. I find more joy, more charity in my own soul, when I daily sup from those pages. I KNOW that GOD lives and has mercifully provided for us, that form of communion with HIM via HIS word, through the scriptures. WHEN I want to draw nearer to HIM, I need only open HIS BOOK! ( or books! for truly there are many scriptures, the Bible and the Book of Mormon, the Doctrine and Covenants and the Pearl of Great Price, and the monthly ENSIGN that has GOD'S word to us through HIS divinely appointed PROPHET here upon the earth NOW! EVEN President Monson.) We are so very blessed to have such direction available to us. IT is there, we have only to open the book and peruse the pages with a pure heart and a prayer in our heart!
I know that there will be more that I will be called upon to endure. There have been so many trials already, but, since my life is not yet over, there will be more. As I age, I see how one choice, one action can set off a chain reaction that causes an entirely new path, a matrix if you will, is opened and the course of life is altered forever. Sometimes that is a very good thing indeed! Other times, the choice leads to such sorrow, it is difficult NOT to regret ever having opened up that path at all......I was watching a discussion about teenagers that abandoned their babies. SHOULD they be given immunity from prosecution, IF they take their baby to a safe haven, such as a hospital, could they then be absolved of any wrong associated with abandonment. WOULD that lead mothers to abandon their babies more often, or abandon them if there was something "wrong" with the baby and they just did NOT wish to deal with a disabled child. WOULD it encourage MORE mothers to abandon their babies? AS I thought of this complex issue, I realized that the choice to procreate without the benefits of a husband/father who would share the burden of parenting was one choice that I was so blessed to have NOT personally made. AND, I realized that this issue just had to be examined on a case by case basis. NO general litigation would be capable of managing such an issue.
This realization brought me face to face with the idea of the ULTIMATE judgment. I am SO very grateful that though many upon this earth feel they have the right to judge, ultimately, we all will face the PERFECT JUDGE! AND, how grateful I am that it is HE that will know the thoughts and intents of MY HEART as HE does pass judgment upon ALL my choices. I then reflected upon my own behavior. WAS I PASSING JUDGMENT, unrighteously, on ANYONE? I have once again, made a commitment to defer ALL judgment to HIM! I will just LOVE and accept all who cross my path and leave the impossible task of perfectly judging, to the ONE that can judge perfectly!
I still go crazy wondering why somethings have occurred in my life! I still WANT to know NOW all the WHY'S! BUT, I will temper that with my understanding that I can FIND answers now, by searching the scriptures. That is where I can find peace and direction. AND, for those things that are NOT given for me to know, here and now, I will exercise patience and WAIT UPON THE LORD! HE will, in time, reveal ALL things. THAT is what HE has promised.
With age, comes the wisdom to try and THINK every option through BEFORE acting! DO I always do so? NO! BUT, I find I am doing that more often! AND, with practice, I may in time, become perfect in making sure each action of mine, is in complete alignment with HIS will. THAT is MY GOAL! THEN, and ONLY then will I have the peace and the assurance that I will do NO HARM to another. WHAT WOULD THAT BE LIKE? TO KNOW, without a doubt, that every action I did take, would ONLY ever BLESS another! THAT is, to me, akin to becoming MORE LIKE HIM! And, that is my goal after all! TO be loving and giving and to bless ALL that are living! IN time, I pray that is what I do achieve. GOD bless us ALL to strive more to be MORE like HIM!
Saturday, July 3, 2010
THE FOURTH OF JULY! INDEPENDENCE DAY
As I drove to work, it was nearing ten o'clock in the evening and much of the evening sky was ablaze with fireworks! Each city that I passed had some fireworks display in progress, some were far more elaborate than others, but, with each magnificent explosion, each brilliant lighting up of the night sky, my heart swelled within my chest and I was so very grateful for this outward display of our united patriotism. HOW blessed we are to live in this beautiful, FREE land! I know that there is much that needs to be righted, and our liberties are truly fragile blessings that we must never take for granted! BUT, how very grateful I am that I do live in this choice land and that I have the privilege to raise my amazing children with our freedoms--- of religion--to mention just one. As a parent, there are SO MANY CHOICES available to me that just are NOT an option to so many others around our globe.
My children are with my parents this week-end. I am not able to share in the festivities, as I am working several nights in a row. BUT, we will have an opportunity in a few short days, to be reunited and to share our love for this great country in a family home evening. AS I ponder how best to share my deep feelings of patriotism with my children, I reflect upon the sacrifices made in our behalf, made daily yet by those serving our country in every branch of our nation's military. HOW can any one of us ever adequately show our gratitude to these noble men and women who wear uniforms and place their very lives on the line for us daily?
I remember seeing an ad encouraging all who did encounter those in uniform, to give them a salute! I was so grateful that someone had made such a simple sign of love and appreciation the object of an ad seen on the internet! I encourage my children to show that respect and use that gesture to ALL who do serve our great land. IN every occupation, whether it be the armed services, or the fire-fighters and police that daily serve in our communities....ALL these men and women deserve our love, admiration, appreciation and constant recognition for continually placing themselves in harm's way each and every day. I feel the tears swell in my eyes, as I contemplate how their families suffer when they are called upon to give their very lives! HOW can we truly ever repay that, the ultimate sacrifice? AGAIN, I recall a video sent to me via the internet, as a fallen soldier was received in Texas, thousands lining the streets, to pay homage to the fallen hero. I am so very proud to know that there are others who have these same deep-seated feelings of love and gratitude. I pray we never lose this common link of love and gratitude.
May we continue to value and appreciate the precious liberties made available to us at such an overwhelming cost. MAY we stand for the right and be heard throughout all this great land, and across the globe. May our hearts be knit together in love, peace and true harmony, is my prayer this DAY OF INDEPENDENCE!
My children are with my parents this week-end. I am not able to share in the festivities, as I am working several nights in a row. BUT, we will have an opportunity in a few short days, to be reunited and to share our love for this great country in a family home evening. AS I ponder how best to share my deep feelings of patriotism with my children, I reflect upon the sacrifices made in our behalf, made daily yet by those serving our country in every branch of our nation's military. HOW can any one of us ever adequately show our gratitude to these noble men and women who wear uniforms and place their very lives on the line for us daily?
I remember seeing an ad encouraging all who did encounter those in uniform, to give them a salute! I was so grateful that someone had made such a simple sign of love and appreciation the object of an ad seen on the internet! I encourage my children to show that respect and use that gesture to ALL who do serve our great land. IN every occupation, whether it be the armed services, or the fire-fighters and police that daily serve in our communities....ALL these men and women deserve our love, admiration, appreciation and constant recognition for continually placing themselves in harm's way each and every day. I feel the tears swell in my eyes, as I contemplate how their families suffer when they are called upon to give their very lives! HOW can we truly ever repay that, the ultimate sacrifice? AGAIN, I recall a video sent to me via the internet, as a fallen soldier was received in Texas, thousands lining the streets, to pay homage to the fallen hero. I am so very proud to know that there are others who have these same deep-seated feelings of love and gratitude. I pray we never lose this common link of love and gratitude.
May we continue to value and appreciate the precious liberties made available to us at such an overwhelming cost. MAY we stand for the right and be heard throughout all this great land, and across the globe. May our hearts be knit together in love, peace and true harmony, is my prayer this DAY OF INDEPENDENCE!
Monday, January 18, 2010
The Law Of Compensation
IT has struck me rather profoundly that there truly is a LAW OF COMPENSATION. IF I did not believe this, I do NOT think I could have endured much of what this life has brought to me. I know that each of us has our own set of trials and no one is spared the tests of this life or the vicissitudes that are inherent with this mortal state. IT is foolish to try and compare our circumstances to other sojourners! We can not know what anyone else has had to face. We see only snapshots of others lives and so, on the basis of just one photo, we could never fairly see what anyone else has been called to bear over their lifespan....the only individual that I can fairly see is myself and even then, I realize I am not a fair judge at that! I am so grateful that there will be a PERFECT JUDGE and a merciful and LOVING MEDIATOR, pleading my case before the FATHER of us ALL! As I searched for documentation of this law of compensation, I found the following quotes:
Boyd K. Packer
The Lord has a way of compensating and blessing.
(I have witnessed this in my own life and have been so very grateful that HE does bless and compensate us.)
Looking to the Savior
Adney Y. Komatsu
Elder James E. Talmage wrote, “No pang that is suffered by man or woman upon the earth will be without its compensating effect … if it be met with patience” (as quoted in Spencer W. Kimball, “Tragedy or Destiny,” in Speeches of the Year, 1955–56, Provo: Brigham Young University, pp. 5–6).
(OH NO! I just hate that qualifier---if it be met with PATIENCE!!! I guess I had better work harder on submitting patiently!)
Come What May, and Love It
Joseph B. Wirthlin
While it may not come at the time we desire, the faithful will know that every tear today will eventually be returned a hundredfold with tears of rejoicing and gratitude.
( THIS made me WEEP as I heard this in conference! I have shed so very many tears, I pray that I will be counted among the FAITHFUL so that ONE DAY, these tears will become tears of rejoicing and gratitude!)
“Woman, Why Weepest Thou?”
James E. Faust
He was also speaking to us—men, women, and children and all of mankind ever born or yet to be born, for the tears of sorrow, pain, or remorse are the common lot of mankind. To the doubting Thomas, Jesus said, “Be not faithless, but believing.” Through faith and righteousness all of the inequities, injuries, and pains of this life can be fully compensated for and made right.
( Again, here is the KEY! We must have FAITH and BE RIGHTEOUS! WHAT better reason to remain faithful and righteous, then to have all our pains, injuries, inequities, and all our sorrows made right!! AND even compensated for!)
Covenant Marriage
Bruce C. Hafen
But the Lord will ultimately compensate those faithful ones who are denied mortal fulfillment. One woman told me through her tears how her husband’s constant criticism finally destroyed not only their marriage but her entire sense of self-worth.
( THIS is something I have experienced! In fact, I am still suffering the effects of this type of unkindness and critical scrutiny. I have lost my marriage, lost my husband and since my sealing has been canceled, I do not have, at this time, a hope of an eternal companion or family. I PRAY every day that ONE DAY, even if IT IS NOT UNTIL the next life, BUT, I PLEAD DAILY that ONE DAY I will be blessed with the LOVE, the companionship and the awesome blessing of an eternal companion and family.)
There are so many days that it is so very difficult to believe that that "ONE DAY" will actually ever be a reality. It can be so very discouraging and at times, I KNOW I am NOT patient, faith-filled or even able to believe! But, I shake those doubts and all my discouraging despondency----usually with prayer or listening to the music that soothes my soul and replaces all that negativity with LOVE and HOPE and CHARITY and a longing to be more and more like MY SAVIOR, and less like my own weak self!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCibEB8UzyA THIS is Mikeschair's "LET the WATER's RISE"
It is my new favorite song! For longer than I care to admit, this has been how I have felt, that a raging sea was right in front of me, poised to swallow me! But, I have been rescued so frequently by HIM! HE has truly been MY DELIVERER!
I hope that you will find the following songs as soothing to your soul and as comforting and faith promoting! IT truly has been these songs, prayer and the scriptures that have saved me and kept me from falling....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M08D_vJQrKU---My Deliverer, by Rich Mullins
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVM85dl-61E---That's What Faith Can Do, by Kutless
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k8gkDiT----There will be a Day, by Jeremy Camp
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xGPS8sa-bRQ---Praise YOU in this Storm, by Casting Crowns
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iMKqpCIlkf4---City on OUR KNEES, by Toby Mac
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Duj9sS-mqSo---I don't want to LOSE my SOUL, by Toby Mac
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4e5ZPTrx7fw----Back in HIS ARMS, by Mark Schultz
Boyd K. Packer
The Lord has a way of compensating and blessing.
(I have witnessed this in my own life and have been so very grateful that HE does bless and compensate us.)
Looking to the Savior
Adney Y. Komatsu
Elder James E. Talmage wrote, “No pang that is suffered by man or woman upon the earth will be without its compensating effect … if it be met with patience” (as quoted in Spencer W. Kimball, “Tragedy or Destiny,” in Speeches of the Year, 1955–56, Provo: Brigham Young University, pp. 5–6).
(OH NO! I just hate that qualifier---if it be met with PATIENCE!!! I guess I had better work harder on submitting patiently!)
Come What May, and Love It
Joseph B. Wirthlin
While it may not come at the time we desire, the faithful will know that every tear today will eventually be returned a hundredfold with tears of rejoicing and gratitude.
( THIS made me WEEP as I heard this in conference! I have shed so very many tears, I pray that I will be counted among the FAITHFUL so that ONE DAY, these tears will become tears of rejoicing and gratitude!)
“Woman, Why Weepest Thou?”
James E. Faust
He was also speaking to us—men, women, and children and all of mankind ever born or yet to be born, for the tears of sorrow, pain, or remorse are the common lot of mankind. To the doubting Thomas, Jesus said, “Be not faithless, but believing.” Through faith and righteousness all of the inequities, injuries, and pains of this life can be fully compensated for and made right.
( Again, here is the KEY! We must have FAITH and BE RIGHTEOUS! WHAT better reason to remain faithful and righteous, then to have all our pains, injuries, inequities, and all our sorrows made right!! AND even compensated for!)
Covenant Marriage
Bruce C. Hafen
But the Lord will ultimately compensate those faithful ones who are denied mortal fulfillment. One woman told me through her tears how her husband’s constant criticism finally destroyed not only their marriage but her entire sense of self-worth.
( THIS is something I have experienced! In fact, I am still suffering the effects of this type of unkindness and critical scrutiny. I have lost my marriage, lost my husband and since my sealing has been canceled, I do not have, at this time, a hope of an eternal companion or family. I PRAY every day that ONE DAY, even if IT IS NOT UNTIL the next life, BUT, I PLEAD DAILY that ONE DAY I will be blessed with the LOVE, the companionship and the awesome blessing of an eternal companion and family.)
There are so many days that it is so very difficult to believe that that "ONE DAY" will actually ever be a reality. It can be so very discouraging and at times, I KNOW I am NOT patient, faith-filled or even able to believe! But, I shake those doubts and all my discouraging despondency----usually with prayer or listening to the music that soothes my soul and replaces all that negativity with LOVE and HOPE and CHARITY and a longing to be more and more like MY SAVIOR, and less like my own weak self!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCibEB8UzyA THIS is Mikeschair's "LET the WATER's RISE"
It is my new favorite song! For longer than I care to admit, this has been how I have felt, that a raging sea was right in front of me, poised to swallow me! But, I have been rescued so frequently by HIM! HE has truly been MY DELIVERER!
I hope that you will find the following songs as soothing to your soul and as comforting and faith promoting! IT truly has been these songs, prayer and the scriptures that have saved me and kept me from falling....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M08D_vJQrKU---My Deliverer, by Rich Mullins
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVM85dl-61E---That's What Faith Can Do, by Kutless
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k8gkDiT----There will be a Day, by Jeremy Camp
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xGPS8sa-bRQ---Praise YOU in this Storm, by Casting Crowns
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iMKqpCIlkf4---City on OUR KNEES, by Toby Mac
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Duj9sS-mqSo---I don't want to LOSE my SOUL, by Toby Mac
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4e5ZPTrx7fw----Back in HIS ARMS, by Mark Schultz
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Subtle Subversion
Way back in the 1990's, I decided to give up TV. It was a choice I made for MY CHILDREN as well as for myself. I was appalled at the filth that was paraded before our eyes every 15 minutes, as advertisers were lowering the standards of what was acceptable just to sell more of their products! I watched as the immodesty and the crude behaviors became commonplace. I decided that it did NOT matter how "GOOD" the particular program of choice was, the inherent evil being subtly inculcated into OUR minds was not innocent. IT was the adversary at his best! HOW better to shape the minds of the masses? SO many would never consciously choose to watch filth, but, if it just "HAPPENED" to be broadcast in the form of advertising, no one would really notice the subtle attack on our societies morals, our value systems! We all would be slowly, carefully dragged down and our standards would slip, ever so carefully to the point of being BASE in just a matter of years! Well, I was RIGHT! I can NOT even believe what is NOW available 24/7 on the TV. Nudity, vulgarity, violence, crime, evil in every form! And, as a whole, our society has become so desensitized to it all now, that it is not even seen for the evil that it is!
I spoke with a friend who insisted that there was still excellent programming available. I asked if the commercials had at all risen their standards over the past decade. His reply was astounding. He insisted that that brief commercial moment, though often very base, did NOT impact him in the least. But, he was able to tell me that the last commercial did have "barely dressed women" I asked if that was not pornography in disguise, and he seemed confused as to what he should reply! I rest my case.
I am so sad that so many good people are allowing their minds to be filled with filth and have just accepted it without any resistance.
I understand how subtle this type of thing is. I was a victim myself in 1981-1982. I was so very ill with my first pregnancy. In order to keep my mind off the incessant nausea and vomiting, I would just watch TV all day and night, until I drifted off to sleep. I had never been a fan of the daytime soap opera's, but, I became addicted and for those months, was so very grateful for that distraction. I had no idea the cost I paid for that addiction until I had had my baby and was no longer watching the TV round the clock. I had gone to a movie with my family previous to my pregnancy, and I was upset by the immorality, the profanity and the total lack of decent standards portrayed in the film. WELL, after having watched the daytime soaps and whatever else was presented on the IDIOT BOX----nearly a year later, I was once again at my parent's home. My younger siblings had rented that same movie that about a year ago had been so very offensive to me! I was not going to remain in the room, because I remembered being offended. For some reason, I remained in the room and watched it again.
I was shocked beyond belief when I realized that I was NOT AT ALL OFFENDED by that movie! I thought, "I KNOW it is the same movie! WHAT HAS CHANGED? WHY DID I THINK IT WAS SO BAD???" I realized after some pondering, that I had become so very desensitized by my watching TV, the soap operas, even the commercials! THAT I NO LONGER HAD THE ABILITY TO FEEL THE GOOD INFLUENCE OF THE HOLY GHOST! IT was that gift of the Holy Ghost that I had always been able to trust, to lead me towards the LIGHT of CHRIST and AWAY FROM SATAN'S SNARES! I had LOST THAT! I was shaken.
I determined that in MY HOME, we would NOT allow the SPIRIT OF THE HOLY GHOST TO FLEE because IT WAS OFFENDED by TV and the subtle subversion's of satan! We have not regretted that choice. THERE is a wonderful spirit in our home when we make certain we are not allowing satan ANY way into our home, minds and hearts.
I am so sad that we are no longer able to get EDITED movies, we did so enjoy that service! BUT we have learned that it is far better to go without seeing the POPULAR movies, shows and fare provided by the evil one, than to lose that sweet companionship of the Holy Ghost!
I spoke with a friend who insisted that there was still excellent programming available. I asked if the commercials had at all risen their standards over the past decade. His reply was astounding. He insisted that that brief commercial moment, though often very base, did NOT impact him in the least. But, he was able to tell me that the last commercial did have "barely dressed women" I asked if that was not pornography in disguise, and he seemed confused as to what he should reply! I rest my case.
I am so sad that so many good people are allowing their minds to be filled with filth and have just accepted it without any resistance.
I understand how subtle this type of thing is. I was a victim myself in 1981-1982. I was so very ill with my first pregnancy. In order to keep my mind off the incessant nausea and vomiting, I would just watch TV all day and night, until I drifted off to sleep. I had never been a fan of the daytime soap opera's, but, I became addicted and for those months, was so very grateful for that distraction. I had no idea the cost I paid for that addiction until I had had my baby and was no longer watching the TV round the clock. I had gone to a movie with my family previous to my pregnancy, and I was upset by the immorality, the profanity and the total lack of decent standards portrayed in the film. WELL, after having watched the daytime soaps and whatever else was presented on the IDIOT BOX----nearly a year later, I was once again at my parent's home. My younger siblings had rented that same movie that about a year ago had been so very offensive to me! I was not going to remain in the room, because I remembered being offended. For some reason, I remained in the room and watched it again.
I was shocked beyond belief when I realized that I was NOT AT ALL OFFENDED by that movie! I thought, "I KNOW it is the same movie! WHAT HAS CHANGED? WHY DID I THINK IT WAS SO BAD???" I realized after some pondering, that I had become so very desensitized by my watching TV, the soap operas, even the commercials! THAT I NO LONGER HAD THE ABILITY TO FEEL THE GOOD INFLUENCE OF THE HOLY GHOST! IT was that gift of the Holy Ghost that I had always been able to trust, to lead me towards the LIGHT of CHRIST and AWAY FROM SATAN'S SNARES! I had LOST THAT! I was shaken.
I determined that in MY HOME, we would NOT allow the SPIRIT OF THE HOLY GHOST TO FLEE because IT WAS OFFENDED by TV and the subtle subversion's of satan! We have not regretted that choice. THERE is a wonderful spirit in our home when we make certain we are not allowing satan ANY way into our home, minds and hearts.
I am so sad that we are no longer able to get EDITED movies, we did so enjoy that service! BUT we have learned that it is far better to go without seeing the POPULAR movies, shows and fare provided by the evil one, than to lose that sweet companionship of the Holy Ghost!
Thursday, October 8, 2009
Motherhood---The Greatest Calling
From the time I was very small, I remember wanting with all my heart to be a mother. In time, I determined that I not only wanted to be a mother, but, I wanted to be a mother of MANY! I think that came as a result of caring for 10-12 babies, infants all under the age of two years old, each Sunday for just over an hour. I had all of the babies in my care, all by myself. At times, it could be bedlam, but for the most part, it was such a rewarding experience! I would just make the rounds; changing diapers, feeding and then cuddling and loving them until their mothers emerged from their meeting.
I knew somehow, that the greatest and most rewarding occupation ever, would be that of mothering my OWN children. How blessed I have been to realize that dream! I am a mother of many! And, caring for them, nurturing and loving them has been my full-time labor of love. Up until my divorce, I was so very blessed to be able to home-school my children! Other than paper routes the children and I had for extra income, I was a "stay-at-home" Mom and I loved every minute of it!
I know that in today's world, being "JUST A MOM" is considered somehow unacceptable! IT is viewed as a waste of one's time and talents, and evidence that somehow anyone that would aspire to be a "stay-at-home" mother is terribly lacking in talents, abilities, motivation, lofty ambition, and or worthy goals! And yet, I believe that it is exactly this pervasive attitude and subsequent degradation of the role of motherhood, that is at the root of the moral decline and the behavioral crisis we are witnessing in our schools, and homes and communities.
All too often children are left to raise themselves and have become "latch-key" children---coming home to NO supervision and NO parental care. And, where are the parents? OFTEN they are seeking fulfillment in careers, volunteering and, well, anything that will keep them busy and OUT OF THE HOME! HOW in the world can we expect children to care, when their parents do not.
I pray that mothers and fathers will seek first to fulfill their responsibilities to their children! I pray we will have a return to deeply committed parents desiring to lovingly fulfill, and even excel in executing our call as parents. The Prophet that was the very first prophet I knew, and grew to love with all my heart, gave the following counsel on Motherhood! I LOVE HIS WISDOM and HIS WORDS on this.....
"Mothers can have a powerful influence for good on their children.
One of the greatest needs in the world today is intelligent, conscientious motherhood. …
Motherhood is the greatest potential influence either for good or ill in human life. The mother’s image is the first that stamps itself on the unwritten page of the young child’s mind. It is her caress that first awakens a sense of security; her kiss the first realization of affection; her sympathy and tenderness the first assurance that there is love in the world.
The noblest calling in the world is motherhood. True motherhood is the most beautiful of all arts, the greatest of all professions. She who can paint a masterpiece, or who can write a book that will influence millions, deserves the admiration and plaudits of mankind; but she who rears successfully a family of healthy, beautiful sons and daughters, whose immortal souls will exert an influence throughout the ages long after paintings shall have faded, and books and statues shall have decayed or have been destroyed, deserves the highest honor that man can give, and the choicest blessings of God.
Mothers sow the seeds in childhood that determine to a great extent life’s harvests in adulthood. A mother who instills into the souls of her children respect for one another and love for motherhood and fatherhood, renders a great service to the Church and to humanity in general. Children from such homes go out into the world as good citizens—citizens who will render the service which their parents have rendered, to fight the battles which their fathers and mothers have fought. …
Motherhood is the one thing in all the world which most truly exemplifies the God-given virtues of creating and sacrificing. Though it carries the woman close to the brink of death, motherhood also leads her into the very realm of the fountains of life, and makes her co-partner with the Creator in bestowing upon eternal spirits mortal life.
All through the years of babyhood, childhood, and youth, yes, even after her girls themselves become mothers and her sons become fathers, the mother tenderly, lovingly sacrifices for them her time, her comfort, her pleasures, her needed rest and recreation, and, if necessary, health and life itself. No language can express the power and beauty and heroism of a mother’s love. …
… Among my most precious soul-treasures is the memory of Mother’s prayers by the bedside, of her affectionate touch as she tucked the bed clothes around my brother and me and gave each a loving, goodnight kiss. We were too young and roguish then to appreciate fully such devotion, but not too young to know that Mother loved us.
It was this realization of Mother’s love, with a loyalty to the precepts of an exemplary father, which more than once during fiery youth turned my steps from the precipice of temptation.
No nobler work in this world can be performed by any mother than to rear and love the children with whom God has blessed her. That is her duty"
May we all be courageously, nobly and lovingly fulfilling our duty as MOTHERS and parents! The children we are so blessed to have, need us to return to this vision of a HOLY PROPHET OF GOD!
I knew somehow, that the greatest and most rewarding occupation ever, would be that of mothering my OWN children. How blessed I have been to realize that dream! I am a mother of many! And, caring for them, nurturing and loving them has been my full-time labor of love. Up until my divorce, I was so very blessed to be able to home-school my children! Other than paper routes the children and I had for extra income, I was a "stay-at-home" Mom and I loved every minute of it!
I know that in today's world, being "JUST A MOM" is considered somehow unacceptable! IT is viewed as a waste of one's time and talents, and evidence that somehow anyone that would aspire to be a "stay-at-home" mother is terribly lacking in talents, abilities, motivation, lofty ambition, and or worthy goals! And yet, I believe that it is exactly this pervasive attitude and subsequent degradation of the role of motherhood, that is at the root of the moral decline and the behavioral crisis we are witnessing in our schools, and homes and communities.
All too often children are left to raise themselves and have become "latch-key" children---coming home to NO supervision and NO parental care. And, where are the parents? OFTEN they are seeking fulfillment in careers, volunteering and, well, anything that will keep them busy and OUT OF THE HOME! HOW in the world can we expect children to care, when their parents do not.
I pray that mothers and fathers will seek first to fulfill their responsibilities to their children! I pray we will have a return to deeply committed parents desiring to lovingly fulfill, and even excel in executing our call as parents. The Prophet that was the very first prophet I knew, and grew to love with all my heart, gave the following counsel on Motherhood! I LOVE HIS WISDOM and HIS WORDS on this.....
"Mothers can have a powerful influence for good on their children.
One of the greatest needs in the world today is intelligent, conscientious motherhood. …
Motherhood is the greatest potential influence either for good or ill in human life. The mother’s image is the first that stamps itself on the unwritten page of the young child’s mind. It is her caress that first awakens a sense of security; her kiss the first realization of affection; her sympathy and tenderness the first assurance that there is love in the world.
The noblest calling in the world is motherhood. True motherhood is the most beautiful of all arts, the greatest of all professions. She who can paint a masterpiece, or who can write a book that will influence millions, deserves the admiration and plaudits of mankind; but she who rears successfully a family of healthy, beautiful sons and daughters, whose immortal souls will exert an influence throughout the ages long after paintings shall have faded, and books and statues shall have decayed or have been destroyed, deserves the highest honor that man can give, and the choicest blessings of God.
Mothers sow the seeds in childhood that determine to a great extent life’s harvests in adulthood. A mother who instills into the souls of her children respect for one another and love for motherhood and fatherhood, renders a great service to the Church and to humanity in general. Children from such homes go out into the world as good citizens—citizens who will render the service which their parents have rendered, to fight the battles which their fathers and mothers have fought. …
Motherhood is the one thing in all the world which most truly exemplifies the God-given virtues of creating and sacrificing. Though it carries the woman close to the brink of death, motherhood also leads her into the very realm of the fountains of life, and makes her co-partner with the Creator in bestowing upon eternal spirits mortal life.
All through the years of babyhood, childhood, and youth, yes, even after her girls themselves become mothers and her sons become fathers, the mother tenderly, lovingly sacrifices for them her time, her comfort, her pleasures, her needed rest and recreation, and, if necessary, health and life itself. No language can express the power and beauty and heroism of a mother’s love. …
… Among my most precious soul-treasures is the memory of Mother’s prayers by the bedside, of her affectionate touch as she tucked the bed clothes around my brother and me and gave each a loving, goodnight kiss. We were too young and roguish then to appreciate fully such devotion, but not too young to know that Mother loved us.
It was this realization of Mother’s love, with a loyalty to the precepts of an exemplary father, which more than once during fiery youth turned my steps from the precipice of temptation.
No nobler work in this world can be performed by any mother than to rear and love the children with whom God has blessed her. That is her duty"
May we all be courageously, nobly and lovingly fulfilling our duty as MOTHERS and parents! The children we are so blessed to have, need us to return to this vision of a HOLY PROPHET OF GOD!
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
MY FAVORITE STORIES
Growing up, there were some stories that my Mother read to us, that truly had a profound effect on me and shaped forever, the way I look at life. I wish that I could cut and paste a couple of those stories right here! Perhaps I can find them and do just that. I will start with one of my favorite poems. My mother had me use this poem when giving a talk. I think I was maybe 7 or 8 years old at the time! I wish I could remember the entire poem, but, here is what I do remember.....
IT is called MY TODAY by Mabel F. Ricard---
I have no other day than this;
Oh Father grant I shall not miss
The service sweet of doing good,
And living truly as I should.
Oh Father, in this day that's mine,
Let all thy sweetness through me shine
Let all my ways acknowledge Thee,
May Christ be manifest in me.
Oh, let me be Thy voice to speak
The truth to those who vainly seek;
And through me let Thy LOVE o'erflow
To all the world that needs it so.
Oh! let today be this for me,
A day of glorifying Thee.
'Tis all the day that my soul knows;
'Tis from today tomorrow grows.
So, for today, this is my prayer,
Tomorrow, Lord, is in Thy care.
It was this poem that did begin my quest to be HIS HANDS! I did truly want to have all those that interacted with me, see HIS image in MY countenance!
I also remember a story from, I believe it was the Instructor. IT was about an elderly gentleman who was in need of low cost--to no cost housing as close to a medical facility as possible. You see, he was scheduled to receive a battery of treatments and could not afford to be commuting daily to the Hospital. He began to solicit housing from those across the street from the Medical complex. He offered to do household chores and assist in child-care in lieu of cash payments for room and board. He stated that he did NOT require much in the way of food nor did he need a private room. He would be happy to rest on a porch or a couch. After a very discouraging multiple attempts, a woman with several children, took pity on the poor man and allowed him to use their home during the treatments. As it turned out, the man was required to return on several different occasions to complete additional rounds of treatment. At first, the children in this kind family were frightened. You see, he was horribly disfigured and yet, he did have a kind face. SO, as the days went by, it was his grand and sensitive nature, his kind and benevolent manner that endeared him to this family. Very soon, they no longer saw his disfigured frame, but instead, could only see the beauty of his grand and noble spirit. He became a true member of their family, loved and cherished!
When his next battery of treatments would begin, he returned and brought token gifts, such that he could afford and showed in word and deed, his deep gratitude for this family's willingness to provide lodging, food, and eventually, a loving family unit of which he soon became an integral part. One day, a neighbor was visiting. She caught sight of their unusual guest and gasped. The woman noticed and inquired as to what would cause her neighbor to react so. Her neighbor stated vehemently that they too had had that "hideous creature" come to their door, and they quickly turned him away! Seizing a teaching moment, this wise woman picked up a potted rose. Unfortunately, the pot was broken, the paint was chipped and it was truly a most UGLY pot! She said, "My dear friend, wouldn't you expect me to place this stunning rose in a more fitting pot?" Her friend quickly agreed and asked eagerly, if that was her plan! TO re-pot the rose right now! BUT, the mother said, "YOU know, on second thought, I do not think that I will!" This disturbed the neighbor and she said, "Oh, come on, don't you want a more fitting pot for such a magnificent rose?!" The mother said, " NO! In fact, the contrast reminds me of our guest!" Puzzled, the neighbor inquired why! And, wisely the mother said, " You know, I believe that our guest is exactly as this rose. Heavenly Father in HIS vast wisdom said, "We will place this magnificent spirit in a broken body, he will not mind, for he will know that it is only for this life that he will be so disfigured and unattractive. IN the eternities, his beauty will truly be stunning and all who see him will marvel! BUT, now, I know he will not mind being placed in this broken pot/body!" She then went on to explain all the joy that he had brought, totally unexpectedly to their family! HOW in his greatness of spirit and charity, he had taught the children to love unconditionally and to see past the outward appearance, and on into the heart!
I have loved that story from the first day that my mother read it to me. I have often thought of that principle and I have tested it out for myself. I have found it to be true! I have known MANY of those that this world would shun, would cast out and mock, ridicule and destroy, simply because they are NOT one of God's more beautifully created outwardly stunning individuals! But, as I have grown to know and love them, I have found that they possessed a greatness and true beauty that others, that this world would honor and revere as beautiful; rarely do possess. Isn't it amazing how truly deceiving looking on the outward appearance can be! How important it is for us to strive to be truly GOD-like and BEAUTIFUL in our actions, our thoughts, our deeds, our desires and our motives! From the first time I heard this story, I have striven to become far more beautiful inside----I have cared more about my countenance than my appearance. And, over the years, whatever youthful beauty has LONG SINCE faded and fled! All that does remain, in the end, is what we have created of OUR SOULS! I pray every day that I may inwardly be more and more like that man! and our Savior. And that HIS IMAGE WILL ALWAYS BE FOUND IN MY COUNTENANCE!
IT is called MY TODAY by Mabel F. Ricard---
I have no other day than this;
Oh Father grant I shall not miss
The service sweet of doing good,
And living truly as I should.
Oh Father, in this day that's mine,
Let all thy sweetness through me shine
Let all my ways acknowledge Thee,
May Christ be manifest in me.
Oh, let me be Thy voice to speak
The truth to those who vainly seek;
And through me let Thy LOVE o'erflow
To all the world that needs it so.
Oh! let today be this for me,
A day of glorifying Thee.
'Tis all the day that my soul knows;
'Tis from today tomorrow grows.
So, for today, this is my prayer,
Tomorrow, Lord, is in Thy care.
It was this poem that did begin my quest to be HIS HANDS! I did truly want to have all those that interacted with me, see HIS image in MY countenance!
I also remember a story from, I believe it was the Instructor. IT was about an elderly gentleman who was in need of low cost--to no cost housing as close to a medical facility as possible. You see, he was scheduled to receive a battery of treatments and could not afford to be commuting daily to the Hospital. He began to solicit housing from those across the street from the Medical complex. He offered to do household chores and assist in child-care in lieu of cash payments for room and board. He stated that he did NOT require much in the way of food nor did he need a private room. He would be happy to rest on a porch or a couch. After a very discouraging multiple attempts, a woman with several children, took pity on the poor man and allowed him to use their home during the treatments. As it turned out, the man was required to return on several different occasions to complete additional rounds of treatment. At first, the children in this kind family were frightened. You see, he was horribly disfigured and yet, he did have a kind face. SO, as the days went by, it was his grand and sensitive nature, his kind and benevolent manner that endeared him to this family. Very soon, they no longer saw his disfigured frame, but instead, could only see the beauty of his grand and noble spirit. He became a true member of their family, loved and cherished!
When his next battery of treatments would begin, he returned and brought token gifts, such that he could afford and showed in word and deed, his deep gratitude for this family's willingness to provide lodging, food, and eventually, a loving family unit of which he soon became an integral part. One day, a neighbor was visiting. She caught sight of their unusual guest and gasped. The woman noticed and inquired as to what would cause her neighbor to react so. Her neighbor stated vehemently that they too had had that "hideous creature" come to their door, and they quickly turned him away! Seizing a teaching moment, this wise woman picked up a potted rose. Unfortunately, the pot was broken, the paint was chipped and it was truly a most UGLY pot! She said, "My dear friend, wouldn't you expect me to place this stunning rose in a more fitting pot?" Her friend quickly agreed and asked eagerly, if that was her plan! TO re-pot the rose right now! BUT, the mother said, "YOU know, on second thought, I do not think that I will!" This disturbed the neighbor and she said, "Oh, come on, don't you want a more fitting pot for such a magnificent rose?!" The mother said, " NO! In fact, the contrast reminds me of our guest!" Puzzled, the neighbor inquired why! And, wisely the mother said, " You know, I believe that our guest is exactly as this rose. Heavenly Father in HIS vast wisdom said, "We will place this magnificent spirit in a broken body, he will not mind, for he will know that it is only for this life that he will be so disfigured and unattractive. IN the eternities, his beauty will truly be stunning and all who see him will marvel! BUT, now, I know he will not mind being placed in this broken pot/body!" She then went on to explain all the joy that he had brought, totally unexpectedly to their family! HOW in his greatness of spirit and charity, he had taught the children to love unconditionally and to see past the outward appearance, and on into the heart!
I have loved that story from the first day that my mother read it to me. I have often thought of that principle and I have tested it out for myself. I have found it to be true! I have known MANY of those that this world would shun, would cast out and mock, ridicule and destroy, simply because they are NOT one of God's more beautifully created outwardly stunning individuals! But, as I have grown to know and love them, I have found that they possessed a greatness and true beauty that others, that this world would honor and revere as beautiful; rarely do possess. Isn't it amazing how truly deceiving looking on the outward appearance can be! How important it is for us to strive to be truly GOD-like and BEAUTIFUL in our actions, our thoughts, our deeds, our desires and our motives! From the first time I heard this story, I have striven to become far more beautiful inside----I have cared more about my countenance than my appearance. And, over the years, whatever youthful beauty has LONG SINCE faded and fled! All that does remain, in the end, is what we have created of OUR SOULS! I pray every day that I may inwardly be more and more like that man! and our Savior. And that HIS IMAGE WILL ALWAYS BE FOUND IN MY COUNTENANCE!
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